The Incredible Worth of a Woman
I. HOW JESUS SEES HIS BRIDE: A BIBLICAL MODEL FOR VIEWING WOMEN
10 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. (Proverbs 31:10)
A. Who can find such a woman? The question can also be asked “Who can see the worth of a virtuous woman?” In a
prophetic word given, the Lord said, “The incredible worth of a woman, who can understand it?” There is a virtuous
woman in the earth, called the body of Christ. She is weak and broken, however, the Lord sees incredible worth and virtue
in her. He wants us to understand how He sees and evaluates His Bride, the Body of Christ.
27 …that He might present her…a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle...28 So husbands ought to
love their own wives as their own bodies…29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and
cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. (Ephesians 5:27-29)
B. Jesus excels in honoring His weak bride. Jesus will cherish His Bride into holiness and health. One of the themes of
the Song of Solomon is how Jesus cherishes His Bride. He sees the power of cherishing as the most effective way of
transforming His people. The Lord names us according to virtues that are only in budding form (Song 4:1-5; Judges 6).
The Lord sees the cry or longing in our spirit to be dedicated to Him long before we walk it out in a mature way.
C. The Lord wants men to think about their wives in the way He thinks about His. Your wife is first and foremost His Bride
forever. We must ask the Lord to show us how He views our wife. Ask the Lord to let you see your wife’s heart in the way He
sees your wife’s heart. It takes divine insight.
D. We want to be in agreement with Him about her. We want to view her the way He views her. We desire that the men
in this spiritual family evaluate and esteem their wives in a godly way.
II. THE POWER OF HONOR
7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel,
and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. (1 Peter 3:7)
A. Jesus wants husbands to understand the heart and destiny of their wife and then to honor her. We must honor our wife
according to how Jesus designed her. We must understand her vision and the way she carries her heart. With this
understanding, we can call forth the budding virtues in her heart and the budding destiny in her life vision and assignment
from God. When was the last time, you asked the Lord what His vision for your wife was and then made a commitment to
fully support it? We must speak this commitment to her. We must partner with Jesus in calling forth our wives.
B. To cultivate insight from God about another person is something we must cultivate. It does not come naturally
because we are prone to be self absorbed. We must take time to speak to our wives with honor. Our family life is only as
effective as our ability to excel in honor. Of all the people of the earth, the Church has been ordained to excel in honoring
one another, especially in the home.
C. Honor causes the garden of a person’s heart to flourish. When honor is withheld, then the heart shrivels up and
dies, like a flower in a parched desert. To feel cherished makes our heart feel powerful. There is no enemy that can stand
victorious before one who feels cherished. We succeed much more as we feel cherished by God and His people.
D. The home is the garden where this is to grow best. It starts with cultivating this between husband and wife, then
spreads to the children. Therefore, a significant spiritual goal for every husband must be to learn to better cherish his wife.
E. One important goal as fathers is to teach our children to be skilled at honoring their mother. We must fight for her
honor instead of her fighting for it. We must see to it that she does not need to strive to receive honor and obedience from
her children. Children will honor their mother to the degree that they see their fathers do it. The best thing you can do for
your grandchildren and the Body of Christ is to teach their future parents to honor their mother
III. WHO CAN FIND A SUCH A WOMAN?
10 Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. (Proverbs 31:10)
A. Who can find a such a woman? This question can be asked “Who can see the worth of a virtuous woman?” Why
can so few people find her? There are many virtuous women in the Body of Christ.
B. What is the context in which a virtuous woman comes forth? She doesn’t just come out of a void. There is a soil in
which virtue is nurtured. Husbands contribute to the strength of their wife’s heart, spiritually, and emotionally. People
become more virtuous as they are clothed in honor.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come….28 Her children rise up and call her
blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her (Proverbs 31:25-28)
C. First, she exhibits honor in her character. She does honorable things.
D. Second, she is honored by the people who relate to her. People exhibit much more honor if they receive honor. If they
are “honor starved” then they will usually exhibit less honor in their lives. Husbands will see that their wife is clothed with
honor and strength. Her husband praises her (v. 28). She is clothed with honor, by being called blessed by her children
and praised by her husband while she is on a journey to spiritual maturity.
E. Her children rise up and call her blessed. (Husbands see that your wife is clothed with honor from your children).
F. It is our desire to see the full impact of women who receive honor in four ways. First, from Jesus as she understands
the Bridal paradigm. Second, honor from her husband because he is awakened to the Kingdom values. Third, honor from
her children because they have been taught this by their father, or by friends of the family, (if there is no husband).
Fourth, honor in the Body.